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All the Small Things

9 Dec

BALANCE-SCALE-3

Balance & Perfection.

All the small things in life are never-ending and always surmounting to something completely overwhelming. I have a list of things 1 8.5×11 page long and it’s overwhelming. I’m deadlocked and not sure what to do. In addition to this, I have scraps of paper on my desk to jot down new “to-dos.” And it might be unquestionably easy to write it out and follow it. But TODAY, well beyond everyone’s jazzed up smart phone, technologically stimulated life, where does all the time go to get these things done? There are so many distractions. And when do you say “No”, if you can, to any of it?

I believe part of it is habit. The habit of prioritizing those special areas of your life and seeing if those to do’s fall within those boundaries. It’s also a matter of knowing what’s an emergency and an immediate MUST DO, compared to some distraction that can either idle the time away, or can be done by someone else.

So my suggestions to kill the stress of to-dos:

1. Prioritize – what areas of your life are important and do you need to dedicate time to? For example, it could be your family, work, and your health. Even within those categories are subcategories (family fun night, getting certification for work, doing yoga 5 times a week). You can’t say yes to every children’s birthday party or business event you’re invited to, and that is where the power of saying NO comes into play. Selfishly saying NO to those things will give you time to prioritize your Family, Work and Health for your “Balance.”

Now let me get something straight. I LOVE the idea of balance. But balance is just like Yin and Yang. It’s always changing, interdependent of Chaos and cannot exist without its opposite. It’s never going to be perfect and being peaceful with that idea can be freeing.

2. Write it Out – the To Do list is a Catch-22. Well, let me clarify, the MENTAL To-Do list. Write it out. Get it on paper. I often tell patients that are always worrying about a mental list to keep a pad and pen by your bed and write out the small things that are on your mind. You won’t forget it and it will be there to cross off when you have a chance to get to it.

3. Focus on the greater good, whatever that may be for you. Maybe its specific goals or areas in your life that you’re working on (health and wellness, spiritual) anything to create positive habits. Make time for those things and make sure it’s blocked out. Do you have your ideal day? Hour for hour, tell your time where to go.

4. Let others know what you’re up to – My husband and I have a list of personal/professional goals and things we want to work on together. We talk about it so we can support each other through our transitions. Find a friend or someone who is going to be supportive for your goals.

5. Goals – write them out for the immediate, near and far off future. This list may change, but it defines your objectives. If something else comes along and it’s good, but not great AND it doesn’t fall in line with your ideal, then you can peacefully pass it by.

What’s this all about? All the small things – they stress us out. They add up. And when we put them in their place and really see how (in)significant they are, we can then decide their importance in our life.

If these small things have you doe-eyed and deadlocked ready to get run over by a semi, just remember…

One thing at a time.

I would love to hear what you do to manage your life.

Take Care!